Unfortunately it?s a vicious circle. The more men there are who send cash ? whether a marriage takes place or not ? the more people will be prepared to pull scams. Even if you have complete faith in your fianc?e, and even if that faith is well placed and she is not out to manipulate you, don?t send her cash. If you send cash, someone somewhere will do the same and be ripped off. That?s how it works. There are at least as many bad people as there are good in this world.
What to Send Your Russian Bride?Gifts, Groceries, and other Goodies to show you care.
Instead of cash, talk to your fianc?e about what she likes. Would she like you to buy her and her family a meal one evening? Perhaps she wants to tell her family that she may have found a husband, over a meal from or at their favorite restaurant. As you can?t be there yourself ? not yet ? you do the next best thing and pick up the bill.
Alternatively, you could surprise your fianc?e with groceries. Find out what she likes to eat and send her a pile of it. Many stores in
Russia
now do what Fresh Direct and Food Emporium do. Ask your fianc?e in passing perhaps, or look up information on the internet about where she lives. There are the traditional gifts, too: chocolates, flowers, jewelry, clothes, books; you?ll find the way to her heart and then follow through with presents to show you care.
If you plan to travel?
You might decide that you want your fianc?e to come to
America
. If you do, and she is prepared, again, don?t send cash! Instead, if you decide to pay for the trip, or the bulk of it, do so yourself and send her the tickets, etc. Discuss the arrangements that you want to make; when she wants to fly, from where, what accommodation she needs to arrange, etc, and organize it yourself. It?s easily done via the internet. Obviously, you want to meet your bride in person; whether you decide to invite her over to
America
, or you decide to visit her in
Russia
, you are going to have to coordinate travel at some point and you?ll probably do so together. But, if you ask her to find a suitable accommodation, for example, make it clear that you are going to handle the payments yourself. She?ll understand and appreciate your openness about your concerns. You may find that she also enjoys having you take a substantial interest in organizing and arranging things for her. It presents you in a very positive light as far as what she?s looking for in a husband. Remember to pay attention: most Russian women are looking for a man who is dedicated to his family. If you take the trouble send her gifts, or organize groceries for her; if you play a substantial role in organizing the travel arrangements, you are showing that you will prove a very devoted husband.
